4/03/2012

Ways To Avoid Getting Divorced

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By George Pittman


No marriage is hunky dory all the time. Don't hold grudges against your spouse because you have fights, instead resolve your disagreements. Make sure that you haven't replaced love with contempt in your marriage as it is not good for your relationship. Separation becomes an alternative when you hold on to the silly fights and arguments you had. Do not go for a divorce yet, give your marriage another chance for the sake of yourselves and your kids. Read on to know how you can save your troubled marriage and prevent a divorce.

Own up to your problems

One of the first steps to save your failing marriage would be to admit that there are problems between you. Do not hesitate to confess because you are not the only couple facing marital problems. If you do not admit this fact, then the difficulties remain unsolved. You accept first so that your spouse understands that you care about your marriage.

Analyze what led to your disagreements

The next step would be to analyze the reasons behind your difficulties. See what is causing a rift between you and taking away your marital bliss. You need to schedule a proper time to analyze. Certain married couples cannot make time for each other because of their demanding work lives. Assess your reasons and list them. Make sure to admit if your priorities have changed.

You have to work out a strategy to get yourselves out of your conflicts

Once you know why you drifted apart, try to decide how you will resolve matters. Get out of country for some days and make time for each other. This time will make you understand why you are ideal for each other. Keep your conversations as sweet and pleasant as possible. If you are nagging or complaining, you are making matters worse.

Stop having disagreements

Do not alone talk and interrupt your spouse from talking about the matters; she needs to talk too. You have to let your spouse tell you what is bothering her and you tell her what is causing you the pain. You need to hear your spouse's side of the story too. If you stop talking to your wife thinking that is what she needs, you are misunderstanding the situation. Agree to your mistakes and faults and begin living a life of happiness. Give your marriage a chance by putting a full stop to your constant fights and arguments.

Compromise brings back all the happiness

It is essential to make efforts to like and respect the things she likes; it is always appreciated. Agree upon things so that it becomes easier for you to spend the rest of your lives with each other. Help your partner to compromise on things by compromising first. Go through your expenditures and incomes. Be honest with your partner and tell her for what you spent your money. If she comes to know of the truth about your spending, she might not believe you again.

Seek help

If you fail to reach a consensus on your troubles, you can always seek for help from family or marriage experts. Interventions are common these days; family or friends help you to see some sense on what makes your marriage special. Religious leaders are also useful in making you understand the sanctity of your marriage. A marriage counselor also helps you to look at things in an objective manner. You might want to put an end to the thought of divorce after this.




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